What do you call it when life exceeds your greatest fantasy? At Parenting 2.o we call her Bobbi DePorter. Haven’t heard of Bobbi previously? Don’t feel bad because we have you beat by a kilometer in the humble pie department. Bobbi DePorter is one of the most accomplished Life Skills Educators in the history of humanity. Think I am exaggerating? Permit me to elaborate.
Bobbi founded something called Super Camp roughly thirty years ago to teach teens interpersonal communication and other Life Skills they were not learning at home or in schools. Since that time she, her husband Joe Chapon, and her amazing staff at Quantum Learning Network educated millions – yes millions – of teens in more than twenty countries and published also multiple books on the topic of Life Skills.
While numerous organizations focus on non-academic skill development, Bobbi has proven herself a rare pioneer by proudly embracing the phrase “Life Skills” in all of QLN’s promotional and educational materials. Why? Because Bobbi DePorter possesses a keen appreciation for the role of Life Skills in human beings thriving – not simply surviving.
Despite being a decades long Life Skills activist myself, I didn’t learn about Bobbi and her exceptional achievements until this summer when she was interviewed by one of our Parenting 2.0 members for a webinar series. So much for believing I was on top of Life Skills around the world via Google Alerts! As if learning about Bobbi and her phenomenal contributions in the Life Skills arena was not sufficiently humbling, I discovered she and I are also – by sheer coincidence – San Diego County (California, USA) neighbors. Suffice to say sometimes life delivers you a dollop of humble to grace your humble pie.
When you meet Bobbi DePorter in person you understand a bit better how she can have accomplished as much as she has, yet remained under the headlines. Like so many high achieving individuals that dedicate their lives to serving others, Bobbi is refreshingly humble, gracious, and soft spoken. There is, however, another variable that warrants our attention. Absent a more established social platform – as we have for academic teachers – Life Skills Educators are forced to function primarily independently.
Changing this fact, and giving Bobbi and thousands of other Life Skills Educators a more solidified public platform to harmonize and collectively influence public discourse, was the stated mission for holding our first P20 Talks Conference. Today, I am proud to say that Bobbi, and dozens of other P20 humanitarians who travelled across land and sea to serve as Thought Leaders at P20 Talks, carried Life Skills a giant leap forward. Held in San Diego, CA August 16th-18th 2012, P20 Talks achieved multiple historic firsts by:
Next month I will begin discussing these P20 Talks historic firsts in greater detail. Today, however, our collective praise and gratitude goes purely and most deservedly to Bobbi DePorter for the privilege of awarding her our first Parenting 2.0 Global Presence Humanitarian Award.
As London hosts the summer Olympics of 2012, and athletes from around the globe awe millions with their heroic strength and courage, history of another type is being made as humanitarians gather for the first Parenting 2.0 “P20 Talks” Conference in San Diego, Ca. Hailing from four continents, more than fifty Life Skills Educators are congregating at the Hacienda Hotel in historic Old Town, August 16th-18th, and unveiling an Olympic sized shift for raising humanity in the twenty-first century.
P20 Talks expands dramatically on prior child-rearing paradigms by:
The highlight of P20 Talks will be the birth of an international, grassroots, volunteer organization called The Global Presence. The Global Presence will provide three primary service paths:
Global Presence Educational Centers will honor, support, and empower parents and others serving on the front lines raising humanity.
P20 Talks proves Olympic flames and feats come in many forms – and few are more signficant than those where the few illuminate the many.
The day will come when, after harnessing space, the winds, the tides and gravitation, we shall harness for God the energies of love. And on that day, for the second time in the history of the world, we shall have discovered fire!
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Cheeks are flushed, heart is beating overtime, brain is helpless to regain the reigns, it’s official, I have a crush. Why is it we never see these things coming?
It started slow, as they often do. A simple hello. But I soon found myself noticing that his emails were the highlight of my day.
I love how he gives everyday people a voice. I love how he has created a dignified platform for every single human being to sing their song, shake their mojo, and speak up for the welfare of others. I love when he shares news of their victories – my heart and soul literally soar with affection for their triumphs.
Yesterday I came out and confessed my crush as Founder of Parenting 2.0 for Change.org and registered a petition calling on schools in the US and Canada to teach interpersonal communication skills. I am excited about the number of people Change.org can help us reach as we advocate proactive education of Life Skills.
The time is here for more people to acknowledge that if we can teach children math and music from third party educators we can most assuredly stop calling them names (Bullies, Victims, Drama Queens) – and punishing them – when they struggle on playgrounds absent formal instruction in interpersonal communication.
The time has come for us to take a broader stance as we advocate a more dignified curriculum for this foundational Life Skill. I am enormously grateful for the platform of Change.org to expand the advocacy of Parenting 2.0.
Today I invite you to join our chorus and experience the power of a loving crush once again – or perhaps for the very first time – in your life.
Sign the Teach Interpersonal Communication Skills to All Children petition and share with your peeps.
Hugs! Mama Marlaine
This week American media clamored to cover the guilty verdict of one of the United States most notorious child molesters, ex Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky, and adults everywhere celebrated. Only when these same adults heed this call to educate all young children on how to protect themselves against child molesters, however, will they embrace the greater victory.
“Limits of tyrants are determined by those whom they oppress” Frederick Douglass brilliantly proclaimed. Children are regularly taught to stop, drop, and role, in the event their clothing catches fire, but the tragic truth is they are more likely to be the victim of molestation by someone they know.
One out of four females in the US, and one out of six males, is molested before the age of 18. This need not be. Education is key. It is time for those who truly care about children to take Life Skills out of parental junk drawers and illuminate them as distinct and critical skill sets – skill sets teachable by third party educators. On August 16th-18th, P20 is rising to the challenge by holding its first P20 Talks Conference in San Diego, CA. Make no mistake, if you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem. Every adult has a role in “Raising Humanity.” Be the Change. Register today.
Music is much like humor, that which is heavenly to one individual can be tortuous to another. Bob Dylan was popular when I was young. I, however, pretty much classified his music as “Songs by which to hang oneself.” Then one weekend I took a road trip in a VW van from Seattle, Washington to Calgary, Alberta for a family wedding. The only radio station we could get in those (pre-Wi Fi in the palm of your hands) days was airing a weekend long Dylan tribute. My first thought was “Who needs a noose, the trip alone will kill me.”
Me of little faith. By the end of the fifteen hour drive I’d broken through whatever boundaries of space and time divide the intolerable from the divine and was a very much still alive Dylan fan. Fast forward thirty years and I hear Leonard Cohen singing “Anthem” for the first time. Cohen’s (Darth Vader mimics Johnny Cash) delivery makes Dylan sound like Mary Poppins. Fortunately, I was attuned to finding symphonies where I’d previously prayed for silence.
“Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”
I recalled Cohen’s prophetic verse this morning during a conference call with Thought Leaders for our P20 Talks August 2012 Conference. https://www.parenting2pt0.org One lovely woman, Deborah McNellis, was describing how children are like the paper snowflakes they create – each unique yet all of them equal – and the importance of seeing wholeness through the holes. Want though parents do for their children to have happy, peaceful, productive lives, some of their most valuable life experiences will come from surviving the seemingly intolerable – when paper thin perceptions of self give way to awareness of that which is infinite and glorious. So where does all of this leave those of us nurturing a more holistic and dynamic narrative for raising humanity? Embracing humility.
Every day, millions of children go to school tired, dehydrated, and hungry simply because parents and other primary care givers are unaware of the problems that stem from failing to prioritize children’s foundational care. This compromises every aspect of students’ performance and places very real burdens on children and schools. On Friday May 4th, 2012 P20 is asking adults everywhere to stand up for children’s foundational health by leaving back packs at home, sharing the concept of The Life Skills Report Card, and discussing consequences of too little sleep, water and exercise. Please help us spread the word by sharing our press release with Facebook friends, schools, and community news reporters. https://www.parenting2pt0.org/media/ Twitter fans please include #P20BPFF when tweeting so we can thank you! Hugs!
Replace Occupy with Exemplify and you have the formula for Parenting 2.0 (P20). P20 is a social consciousness movement committed to effecting positive change in every avenue of human interaction by nurturing a more proactive Life Skills educational process. Take any societal ill, (health care, financial collapse, wars) and you can find roots in inferior Life Skills. P20 diverges dramatically from prior parenting paradigms by recognizing every adult’s role in “raising” future generations and advocating third party instruction for Life Skills.
The largest impediment to change is not a lack of qualified educators and resources, it is the cacophony created by everyone marketing their resources independently. For this reason P20 asks change activists and Life Skills Educators around the globe to prioritize linking arms and establishing a more effective means of teaching today’s children skills essential for creating peace within their homes and between their countries. Over 1700 educators from more than 40 countries have gathered in the Parenting 2.0 group on LinkedIn – earning it top ranking of more than 300 parenting groups worldwide. In August of 2012, Parenting 2.0 is holding its first international P20 Talks Conference in San Diego, CA USA.
Parents, day care providers, and relatives, are typically your first and most influential educators of Life Skills. How you eat, stand, play with others and solve problems all are learned, initially, from them. Where did they learn Life Skills? From a nutritional college, non-violent communication clinics, spiritual retreats?
Not usually… The bulk of their Life Skills were learned from their parents, from their actions. If their parents stood tall, they stood tall, if their parents ate junk food, they ate junk food, if their parents screamed and yelled, they learned to scream and yell. The hard truth of the matter is – despite an abundance of uniquely qualified educators – the Life Skills’ educational process more closely resembles genetic inheritance than academics.
If the first great irony in life is that the most important and widely shared job on earth – parenthood – has yet to merit any formal preparation, the second greatest irony is that we accept the Life Skills our parents teach us as if we were computer clones. Even if we hated the quality of Life Skills learned – barring some major personal crisis that requires us to examine their inferiority – we typically do very little to assess our abilities and continue our education once we become adults.
Like all assignments, certain skills are necessary to complete them. The skills that enable people to survive and commune with others are most commonly called Life Skills. Life Skills include but are not limited to:
The fact that the term Life Skills is typically used in English speaking societies to reference only the most basic of independent living skills communicates the low esteem that people hold for Life Skills and their impact on our lives.
Consider for a moment the last thing that troubled you:
If your answer to any of these is yes, you were challenged by Life Skills. Now think about how you learned these all important Life Skills. Who were your teachers? In contrast to academics – which children may or may not learn depending on geography, gender, and economics – acquisition of Life Skills is mandatory.
Every individual on the planet, be they a world leader or a knife wielding gang member, learns and utilizes Life Skills. The only things optional about Life Skills development are your level of appreciation for their value, the time you dedicate to learning them, and the individuals you choose as your teachers.
Excerpt from The Life Skills Report Card
We teach children to read and write but we do not teach them interpersonal communication skills. Instead, we call them names “bullies, victims, drama queens” when they struggle absent quality instruction. The world changes when we change. The Change is here. Communication and Social Skills are two of the five categories on The Life Skills Report Card.